Not your destination!

“We can achieve this! We are better than this! We deserve a life better than what we have!” — When we believe in ourselves, we believe that we have what is needed to succeed. We expect we can do anything to succeed.

To achieve our goals, we make a list of things we need to know, and things we need to do “Just a short period of intense labor, a few more sleepless nights of hard work, a few more months of self-control to accomplish our dreams” we tell ourselves “then we can start enjoying the life.” We picture ourselves dazzled up with a grin of success at the end of the day.

Unfortunately, outside of that to-do list when we start living the real-life treading the path for achieving our goals, we deal with the truth. We covet success, but we get constant disappointment every single moment of the day. The bar is too high, no matter how much we try we cannot come close to achieving the success, close to the life we firmly believe we deserve.

When one to-do list fails, we make another to-do list and this arbitrary distance between the time when we think we will start enjoying life and our present keeps increasing. We continue to work hard, we continue to wait because we still believe that we deserve a better life! We fail to see if we are doing all of this in the hope of getting happiness why none of this is giving us any happiness? We start drowning in our to-do lists. While waiting for a better life, we overlook the life we own and disregard what we have.

To achieve something that we think would make us happy, a few of us set the standards extremely high. Setting high standards and dreaming big is important, it’s essential for us humans to grow. High standards give us the motivation to thrive and accomplish something huge in life. Hard work is imperative to excel, but in the hope of achieving something great, we should not stop appreciating what we have.

It sounds cliche, but life is not about reaching the destination, it is about the road we take, and the journey we experience! And maybe the hard work we are doing to reach our destination, destination that we think would give us the ultimate happiness is not even our destination. Not everyone is born to be a CEO, to have a size 0 figure, to have money to plan luxury trips, and to be blah blah n blah……

Accept who you are. Learn to live. Enjoy every moment. You don’t need any superficial reason to be happy. You are our own happiness.

~~Poornima.